It's Not Too Late, Sis

From being a little girl to now being a teenager or adult, what is something you have always dreamed of?

For me, it was to be married to a God-fearing husband, have a family, and own a lovely new house. I never knew how I would reach these desires nor the journey I would be on, but I knew this was what I wanted deep inside. Now, I am married to an amazing God-fearing man, have a wonderful family, and we are working on the new house part, but sometimes I wonder how my journey would have differed if I had known and obeyed God earlier in my life. Maybe I would not have endured so much trauma. Perhaps, I would not have ended up in an abusive marriage that almost cost me my life. Possibly, I may not have been a single mother in my early 20s. However, not in the slightest degree do I regret my journey because I am thriving in my calling, living answered prayers, and helping other sisters on their journey.

One of the most complex truths is knowing and facing that sometimes we are responsible for our pain, trauma, and delay in blessings. This is even evident in the Bible. Take a look at Eve, Sarah, Lot's wife, and David, for example.

Some of our pain and trauma are a result of our own self-destructing behaviors that spiral into depression, lack of self-worth, loss of identity, negative self-talk, self-sabotage, and insecurities. Then, it becomes a cycle.

Self-destructing behaviors = Pain/trauma.

Pain/trauma = The need for healing.

Unhealed = Self-destructive behaviors, which start the cycle over again.

It's a cycle that we need to break, sis.

We are too worthy, beautiful, and valuable to continue experiencing the same pain, heartbreaks, and situations.

Remember those dreams you have—those dreams you've dreamed of since you were a little girl—they're still attainable. God wants to heal you and bless you with your heart's desires (Psalms 37:4).

If your passion is to become a wife, you must behave like a wife. You can't compromise your standards, values, and respect for yourself. Fornicating and sleeping with every man you encounter will open you up to trauma and distance you from your dream. Seeking validation from the world instead of God will distance you from your dreams (Matthew 6:33). If you want to be an entrepreneur, making yourself profitable starts with your characteristics. Gossiping, bad attitudes, greed, and lack of integrity will diminish that opportunity for you (Luke 16:10-12). We can continue, but you get the gist.

Sis, it's time to stop those behaviors, position yourself under God, and get on the path you were designed to be on.

My prayer is that you will encounter this devotional early enough in your life to keep you on the narrow road or at a point when you desperately need change. There is no possible way to eliminate all pain and suffering from life itself (John 16:33), but we can minimize the pain and suffering from our own hands (Deuteronomy 4:30) and still reach the dreams the little girl in us truly desires.

I don’t believe it was by mistake that you came across this post. God brought you here for a reason. I always pray for God's spirit to guide me when creating devotionals and to lead the people here to hear His message, whether it’s for you or for you to share with someone else in your life.

It’s time to heal today and stop those self-destructive behaviors, sis. You know what you need to do. Don't continue to delay your blessings.

This wasn't the end of my story, and it sure isn’t the end of yours.